Since having children, and the observation of how they are constantly learning , that once they can speak, sometimes that’s all they want to do they want to know everything, they speak their minds, they ask questions as that’s how they learn, it’s how we all learn. Sometimes we tend to forget however, their minds are still developing even when they can speak and whether you like it or not there are times you just gotta sit back, have a bit of patience and go with it and have a laugh.
I Got Nothing Moments
Sometimes the questions they ask, Continue reading
Curiosity is in the nature of children and so as soon they gain control over their limbs they are ready to explore the world. When the kids observe and imitate the world it helps in the development of their abilities and the connections in their brain gets stronger. This is the reason that we should let children get creative because it is the best form of exploration. While we focus on encouraging them to read and write, here we have a list of reasons that will help you understand why art is also important for Continue reading
While the method of spanking children or corporal punishment has been going on for years as a form of discipline, is it really the answer to punishment for children? Do we hit adults every time they act up or step out of line? My guess is no, so why is it OK to lash out at a child? What would people say to bullies in school “Pick on someone your own size” So therefore, as parents are we not doing the same thing hitting someone who is smaller and vulnerable? Continue reading
This is more of a rant than anything but was in the playground the other day and saw this little girl being just pure mean to another one. I was watching with sadness and fascination also as to where the parent was and was she going to do anything. I felt like I should intervene; don’t get me wrong, that’s the last thing I want to be doing as no one likes to be told how to raise their child. Continue reading
This is a review of Help! I’m a Father, by Mark Hearn. This book offers some great for tips advice on parenting and from a father’s point of view from birth to adult.
When I was pregnant with my first child I read all the standard books on parenting and I thought I had it all sussed until the actual reality set in. No one really told me about the actual little day to day events that will occur that I just wasn’t prepared for.
There is no one set rule for parenting Continue reading
As parents, it can be hard to watch your child in a situation where they are not feeling too good about themselves. Children tend to put themselves down a lot; they want to be able to do something exactly like others or they can sometimes get upset if someone is great in a certain discipline and they are not. Children can get frustrated easily, if they can’t get the hang of things straight away. They tend to think of the now moment and have no concept to look into the future.
What can we do as parents to help our children feel happy and confident with themselves and guide them that it’s not about being perfect at everything?
This is an important thing to have, as even adults tend to put themselves down with lack of self-confidence, thinking that they are not good enough and there’s no point in even attempting something. There are a few simple ways we can guide them, for example:
- Questions – Let them make decisions – like what we should have for dinner or what will we do today? Or get involved with a game they are playing and ask them to show you how to play.
- Communicating – When you are shopping or having a bite to eat, let them go to the counter and buy something or let them order their own food. Ask them to get you more napkins cutlery etc. Talk to more people when you are out and be friendly. Let them know its ok to talk to people, as long as a trusted adult is with them and obviously they know the rights and wrongs and the safety of talking to strangers.
I will never forget the day I decided to lock myself in the bathroom when I was having a shower, not thinking of the consequences it was going to have. This would be the first time I had locked a bathroom door since my kids were born. I was in the shower for two minutes when all hell broke loose. My two kids started kicking and banging the door and screaming their heads off. I ran out of the bathroom still covered in soap in such a temper with them. I yelled so loud at them to stop screaming at me and told them to go straight to bed because they were being bold.
They looked at me with such little sad scared faces. Later that night when I eventually calmed down after lots of tears and soul searching I thought to myself, Who am I to be yelling and making my kids feel scared? They are only little human beings that look up to me and I came across like the big bad wolf. They were not being bold, they panicked because they felt like i’d shut them out by locking the door. This is not a way of teaching discipline to my children.
Discipline is most commonly associated with punishment Continue reading