I was watching my kids and their friends playing in the park the other day and thinking there are days I would love to just be that kid again. Kids can be very positive to be around as adult life can sometimes get in the way of our thinking. We were once that kid before who was just happy and content. What got in the way of all that? Here’s what I’m learned from kids to remind ourselves again.
No Grey Areas
Kids don’t over analyse things and see another grey area for excuses. Like for instance there was a time when I was doing my first library reading for children, I had told my son I was a little nervous and not sure if I can go through with it. He gave me a puzzled look and said , “Why would you be nervous about that?” I thought about it for a moment and honestly couldn’t give him an answer. Why was I nervous? What’s the worst thing that could happen? Nothing at all. We were once that kid who would climb up the highest tree and not think of the actual danger that could happen, so why are we nervous about things now? Sometimes as adults we tend to talk ourselves out of things as we build it up in our heads of things that can go wrong and tend not to think of what can go right. A child’s view is ‘don’t overthink at all and just get on with’ it which I did.
Kids are straight talkers and you know where you stand with them, which I love as I don’t have time to be led around of people feeding you a lot of crap when you know they’re lying. Also If you ask a child’s an opinion Continue reading
I was having another one of those days where I was rambling after a hectic day running back and forth with the kids, house being a complete mess and the only culinary delight I was capable of serving was a boiled egg. My friend said to me, “You make this whole parenting thing sound crazy, it’d be enough to put you off! Is there anything good about it?” I thought about that for a minute and I wasn’t too sure how to answer. All I could say was, “Ah, don’t mind me; It’s not as scary as I make it out. It has its good sides.” Continue reading
As parents, it can be hard to watch your child in a situation where they are not feeling too good about themselves. Children tend to put themselves down a lot; they want to be able to do something exactly like others or they can sometimes get upset if someone is great in a certain discipline and they are not. Children can get frustrated easily, if they can’t get the hang of things straight away. They tend to think of the now moment and have no concept to look into the future.
What can we do as parents to help our children feel happy and confident with themselves and guide them that it’s not about being perfect at everything?
This is an important thing to have, as even adults tend to put themselves down with lack of self-confidence, thinking that they are not good enough and there’s no point in even attempting something. There are a few simple ways we can guide them, for example:
- Questions – Let them make decisions – like what we should have for dinner or what will we do today? Or get involved with a game they are playing and ask them to show you how to play.
- Communicating – When you are shopping or having a bite to eat, let them go to the counter and buy something or let them order their own food. Ask them to get you more napkins cutlery etc. Talk to more people when you are out and be friendly. Let them know its ok to talk to people, as long as a trusted adult is with them and obviously they know the rights and wrongs and the safety of talking to strangers.