This is a confession to my kids for when they are older. I will start off by saying, I really do love you both and would do anything for you and you know that as I tell you all the time.I will always be here for you, but that doesn’t mean you don’t drive me absolutely crazy at times! Continue reading
Blogger Recognition Award is a positive and nice time to see the interaction of others and who are taking the time to read each other’s blogs and connecting. The internet world is such a vast place and is growing daily and therefore it is easy to get lost among it. I was truly honoured to have received an email from Magicmindz informing me that they have put my blog down as one of the nominations. This is a great blog I have been following for a while now as it covers a range of topics including parenting, relationships, creativity and I would recommend to pop over and see for yourself.
How did I get into blogging? Continue reading
Do you ever just get frustrated by the way you are ignored every time you have something important to say to your child? I feel like I’m talking to the wall at times. I think at one point, I actually did without realising the child had got bored listening to me and went to another room. There are so many reasons for this type of behavior from your child followed by as many solutions, too.
For starters, you need to make sure you use the right tone of voice – be positive and confident about what you are saying. Try to calm yourself down a little before venturing into an argument. Go over the words you want to use once, to make sure your words are kept simple yet firm. You also need to focus on building trust and speaking the truth. Don’t exaggerate outcomes for their behavior – children are not as dumb as we think and you will just end up teaching them how to lie and not trust you. Let’s face it, they know their teeth are not going to fall out overnight by having that extra sweet for e.g.
Making continuous eye contact with your child will also keep Continue reading
As parents, it can be hard to watch your child in a situation where they are not feeling too good about themselves. Children tend to put themselves down a lot; they want to be able to do something exactly like others or they can sometimes get upset if someone is great in a certain discipline and they are not. Children can get frustrated easily, if they can’t get the hang of things straight away. They tend to think of the now moment and have no concept to look into the future.
What can we do as parents to help our children feel happy and confident with themselves and guide them that it’s not about being perfect at everything?
This is an important thing to have, as even adults tend to put themselves down with lack of self-confidence, thinking that they are not good enough and there’s no point in even attempting something. There are a few simple ways we can guide them, for example:
- Questions – Let them make decisions – like what we should have for dinner or what will we do today? Or get involved with a game they are playing and ask them to show you how to play.
- Communicating – When you are shopping or having a bite to eat, let them go to the counter and buy something or let them order their own food. Ask them to get you more napkins cutlery etc. Talk to more people when you are out and be friendly. Let them know its ok to talk to people, as long as a trusted adult is with them and obviously they know the rights and wrongs and the safety of talking to strangers.
I will never forget the day I decided to lock myself in the bathroom when I was having a shower, not thinking of the consequences it was going to have. This would be the first time I had locked a bathroom door since my kids were born. I was in the shower for two minutes when all hell broke loose. My two kids started kicking and banging the door and screaming their heads off. I ran out of the bathroom still covered in soap in such a temper with them. I yelled so loud at them to stop screaming at me and told them to go straight to bed because they were being bold.
They looked at me with such little sad scared faces. Later that night when I eventually calmed down after lots of tears and soul searching I thought to myself, Who am I to be yelling and making my kids feel scared? They are only little human beings that look up to me and I came across like the big bad wolf. They were not being bold, they panicked because they felt like i’d shut them out by locking the door. This is not a way of teaching discipline to my children.
Discipline is most commonly associated with punishment Continue reading
As parents, we all hope that our children will become successful adults. But most importantly we want to know that we are raising good them to be good people. We all hope that our children will grow up to have the courage to stand up for others who can’t, who always choose to do good and offer help to others. But these types of values are such that need to be taught when they are young. When children are taught at an early age good values, they learn to lead better lives and have a better moral compass. Here are some ways that you can teach your young ones good values:
- Be a good example.
We are our children’s first teachers. We are who they model their behaviors after first. When your child sees how you interact with people, your own generosity and your own personal values -they will mimic those. In other words, you must practice what you preach. When they find themselves in a situation where they are not sure what path to follow, they will think about what path you would choose. Help make sure they choose the right one.
- Hold them accountable.
This is very important. When your child Continue reading
The Generation Z or the Post Millennials of today, children born from the early 2000, are also sometimes called the Screeners. They have a surprising aptitude for technology and a hand full of prying fingers that are hard to ignore – these kids are the future.
As much as we would like them to remain babies, they grow up so quickly and as a part of their growth process, certain systematic establishments need to be made. This is done in order for them to transition well into an empathetic, imaginative individual who is not solely a by-product of these inventions. In short, this is a call for simplicity.
What is creative expression and why practice it?
Creative expression is widely regarded as a way for people, especially children, to express their inner thoughts, opinions and even identities through forms of art such as painting, writing as well as music. A large part of one’s personal experience and knowledge greatly forms the basis of their expression, and can mirror or help them process their emotions or thoughts.
The practice of creative expression has numerous benefits of your child. It first of all can help build and develop the fine Continue reading
This list is from my 5 and 7 year old of the most favourite books we read this year. They are in no particular order.
Charlie and the cheesemonster by Justin CH Birch
I’ve very fond memories of my mother reading and telling stories to me at night when I was a child. She had the ‘gift of the gab’ as we say in Ireland. Now that I have my own children I can see the importance of reading to them. For me in the early stages, I found the little picture touch feel novelty books were great for helping my children with their sounds and senses. Reading to them was another way of them hearing your voice and sharing an experience together, and that for me created a nice little bond. Even if you have to point and say apple a 100 times it’s important. You’re the first voice they know and it’s a great way of communicating with them and teaching them to speak and express themselves.
As they got older the Continue reading