This is more of a rant than anything but was in the playground the other day and saw this little girl being just pure mean to another one. I was watching with sadness and fascination also as to where the parent was and was she going to do anything. I felt like I should intervene; don’t get me wrong, that’s the last thing I want to be doing as no one likes to be told how to raise their child. Continue reading
This is a review of Help! I’m a Father, by Mark Hearn. This book offers some great for tips advice on parenting and from a father’s point of view from birth to adult.
When I was pregnant with my first child I read all the standard books on parenting and I thought I had it all sussed until the actual reality set in. No one really told me about the actual little day to day events that will occur that I just wasn’t prepared for.
There is no one set rule for parenting Continue reading
Drugs as we know have and still are a huge problem in today’s society. The other week I was gobsmacked though after having a conversation with a friend of mine about her teenage son that had started secondary school. He came home and told her about a boy who had got caught selling drugs in the school hallway. He then went on to tell her how the kids are easily buying drugs online and arranging meet ups.
This boy was around 12 years of age. I was absolutely horrified. When you send your children to school Continue reading
This is a confession to my kids for when they are older. I will start off by saying, I really do love you both and would do anything for you and you know that as I tell you all the time.I will always be here for you, but that doesn’t mean you don’t drive me absolutely crazy at times! Continue reading
Blogger Recognition Award is a positive and nice time to see the interaction of others and who are taking the time to read each other’s blogs and connecting. The internet world is such a vast place and is growing daily and therefore it is easy to get lost among it. I was truly honoured to have received an email from Magicmindz informing me that they have put my blog down as one of the nominations. This is a great blog I have been following for a while now as it covers a range of topics including parenting, relationships, creativity and I would recommend to pop over and see for yourself.
How did I get into blogging? Continue reading
Do you ever just get frustrated by the way you are ignored every time you have something important to say to your child? I feel like I’m talking to the wall at times. I think at one point, I actually did without realising the child had got bored listening to me and went to another room. There are so many reasons for this type of behavior from your child followed by as many solutions, too.
For starters, you need to make sure you use the right tone of voice – be positive and confident about what you are saying. Try to calm yourself down a little before venturing into an argument. Go over the words you want to use once, to make sure your words are kept simple yet firm. You also need to focus on building trust and speaking the truth. Don’t exaggerate outcomes for their behavior – children are not as dumb as we think and you will just end up teaching them how to lie and not trust you. Let’s face it, they know their teeth are not going to fall out overnight by having that extra sweet for e.g.
Making continuous eye contact with your child will also keep Continue reading
As parents, it can be hard to watch your child in a situation where they are not feeling too good about themselves. Children tend to put themselves down a lot; they want to be able to do something exactly like others or they can sometimes get upset if someone is great in a certain discipline and they are not. Children can get frustrated easily, if they can’t get the hang of things straight away. They tend to think of the now moment and have no concept to look into the future.
What can we do as parents to help our children feel happy and confident with themselves and guide them that it’s not about being perfect at everything?
This is an important thing to have, as even adults tend to put themselves down with lack of self-confidence, thinking that they are not good enough and there’s no point in even attempting something. There are a few simple ways we can guide them, for example:
- Questions – Let them make decisions – like what we should have for dinner or what will we do today? Or get involved with a game they are playing and ask them to show you how to play.
- Communicating – When you are shopping or having a bite to eat, let them go to the counter and buy something or let them order their own food. Ask them to get you more napkins cutlery etc. Talk to more people when you are out and be friendly. Let them know its ok to talk to people, as long as a trusted adult is with them and obviously they know the rights and wrongs and the safety of talking to strangers.