This is more of a rant than anything but was in the playground the other day and saw this little girl being just pure mean to another one. I was watching with sadness and fascination also as to where the parent was and was she going to do anything. I felt like I should intervene; don’t get me wrong, that’s the last thing I want to be doing as no one likes to be told how to raise their child. Continue reading
Blogger Recognition Award is a positive and nice time to see the interaction of others and who are taking the time to read each other’s blogs and connecting. The internet world is such a vast place and is growing daily and therefore it is easy to get lost among it. I was truly honoured to have received an email from Magicmindz informing me that they have put my blog down as one of the nominations. This is a great blog I have been following for a while now as it covers a range of topics including parenting, relationships, creativity and I would recommend to pop over and see for yourself.
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The other month my 7 year old informed me that he had his own you tube channel. When I say I was gob smacked, that was an understatement. I wasn’t aware of it at all, and I was annoyed at myself for not noticing. I felt like the worst mother ever! I had all sorts of thoughts of what he had on it, when he was recording it, was he talking to anyone and if there was any personal stuff going on in the background and more the fact, that all along, I was thinking he was playing away on games while I was pottering around the house. Thankfully there wasn’t much on it, as it was just a channel with his daily ramblings. There were a couple of idiotic comments from people, nothing derogatory, luckily enough but however I did notice though that some of the vocabulary being used was a little advanced which was quite worrying. I also showed him how to block people if there were any bad comments. It did get me thinking however of the safety of the internet. When I first joined Facebook for example I had all sorts of creeps annoying me. One guy was sending pictures of him and his mother to me. Another offered me a car so I said “Yes, that would be nice” and gave him a PO box number to post it over to me. Thankfully I discovered the block button. As parents, it’s not a nice thought of children being exposed to that, so what we can do to keep our children safe?
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Do you ever just get frustrated by the way you are ignored every time you have something important to say to your child? I feel like I’m talking to the wall at times. I think at one point, I actually did without realising the child had got bored listening to me and went to another room. There are so many reasons for this type of behavior from your child followed by as many solutions, too.
For starters, you need to make sure you use the right tone of voice – be positive and confident about what you are saying. Try to calm yourself down a little before venturing into an argument. Go over the words you want to use once, to make sure your words are kept simple yet firm. You also need to focus on building trust and speaking the truth. Don’t exaggerate outcomes for their behavior – children are not as dumb as we think and you will just end up teaching them how to lie and not trust you. Let’s face it, they know their teeth are not going to fall out overnight by having that extra sweet for e.g.
Making continuous eye contact with your child will also keep Continue reading
For the Generation Z Children
Mother suffers regret,
The day she bought the tablet.
She thought her son,
Would think it be fun,
But that was to be seen yet.
Mother was sad that day,
Of her son not wanting to play,
On a nice sunny day.
The noise of the device, Continue reading
As parents, it can be hard to watch your child in a situation where they are not feeling too good about themselves. Children tend to put themselves down a lot; they want to be able to do something exactly like others or they can sometimes get upset if someone is great in a certain discipline and they are not. Children can get frustrated easily, if they can’t get the hang of things straight away. They tend to think of the now moment and have no concept to look into the future.
What can we do as parents to help our children feel happy and confident with themselves and guide them that it’s not about being perfect at everything?
This is an important thing to have, as even adults tend to put themselves down with lack of self-confidence, thinking that they are not good enough and there’s no point in even attempting something. There are a few simple ways we can guide them, for example:
- Questions – Let them make decisions – like what we should have for dinner or what will we do today? Or get involved with a game they are playing and ask them to show you how to play.
- Communicating – When you are shopping or having a bite to eat, let them go to the counter and buy something or let them order their own food. Ask them to get you more napkins cutlery etc. Talk to more people when you are out and be friendly. Let them know its ok to talk to people, as long as a trusted adult is with them and obviously they know the rights and wrongs and the safety of talking to strangers.
Since becoming a parent I had never known what stress really was and how it can affect me. Parenting is such a roller-coaster of emotions and questions. There are days when I feel so high that I can take on the world and loads more kids but on the bad days when the kids are really loud or just acting bold, I find myself physically shaking, exhausted and feeling like crap and questioning myself as a parent. It always comes back to the same answer, This is my life now and I love my children and I want to be the best I can be for them.
It is important to take time for ourselves though and recharge. We are only human after all, and we do get bad days. Stress and anxiety, if not dealt with can lead to much bigger problems with illnesses and depression. Here are some ways you can manage, Continue reading