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Getting Your Child to Listen to You

Do you ever just get frustrated by the way you are ignored every time you have something important to say to your child? I feel like I’m talking to the wall at times. I think at one point, I actually did without realising the child had got bored listening to me and went to another room. There are so many reasons for this type of behavior from your child followed by as many solutions, too.

For starters, you need to make sure you use the right tone of voice – be positive and confident about what you are saying. Try to calm yourself down a little before venturing into an argument. Go over the words you want to use once, to make sure your words are kept simple yet firm. You also need to focus on building trust and speaking the truth. Don’t exaggerate outcomes for their behavior – children are not as dumb as we think and you will just end up teaching them how to lie and not trust you. Let’s face it, they know their teeth are not going to fall out overnight by having that extra sweet for e.g.

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Escape Electronic Land

For the Generation Z Children

Mother suffers regret,

The day she bought the tablet.

She thought her son,

Would think it be fun,

But that was to be seen yet.

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Mother was sad that day,

Of her son not wanting to play,

On a nice sunny day.

 

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Parenting Stress Management

Since becoming a parent I had never known what stress really was and how it can affect me. Parenting is such a roller-coaster of emotions and questions.  There are days when I feel so high that I can take on the world and loads more kids but on the bad days when the kids are really loud or just acting bold, I find myself physically shaking, exhausted and feeling like crap and questioning myself as a parent. It always comes back to the same answer, This is my life now and I love my children and I want to be the best I can be for them. 

It is important to take time for ourselves though and recharge. We are only human after all, and we do get bad days. Stress and anxiety, if not dealt with can lead to much bigger problems with illnesses and depression.  Here are some ways you can manage, Continue reading

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Sibling Rivalry

So I’m having another one of those days where I’m reflecting on one of my many parent roles,  a referee between my two kids. ‘Have kids near the same age’ I hear. ‘They’ll be great pals’ I hear, but no one warned about the constant battles between young kids and how stressful it can be for a parent. Sometimes I picture what it could feel like to be in a war zone! Most times they do get on which can be great but when they fight it’s horrible!

Being a referee during sibling fightsbox-1013994_1280 (1) is a fatigue I’m sure most parents have to endure. Although sibling rivalry is considered a normal phenomenon in most of the families, it transforms into a bigger problem when one child dominates or bullies the other. Symptoms of sibling Continue reading

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Yelling and its Effects on Parents and Children

I will never forget the day I decided to lock myself in the bathroom when I was having a shower, not thinking of the consequences it was going to have. This would be the first time I had locked a bathroom door since my kids were born. I was in the shower for two minutes when all hell broke loose. My two kids started kicking and banging the door and screaming their heads off. I ran out of the bathroom still covered in soap in such a temper with them. I yelled so loud at them to stop screaming at me and told them to go straight to bed because they were being bold.

They looked at me with such little sad scared faces. Later that night when I eventually calmed down after lots of tears and soul searching I thought to myself, Who am I to be yelling and making my kids feel scared? They are only little human beings that look up to me and I came across like the big bad wolf. They were not being bold, they panicked because they felt like i’d shut them out by locking the door. This is not a way of teaching discipline to my children.

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Teaching Values to Children

As parents, we all hope that our children will become successful adults. But most importantly we want to know that we are raising good them to be good people. We all hope that our children will grow up to have the courage to stand up for others who can’t, who always choose to do good and offer help to others. But these types of values are such that need to be taught when they are young. When children are taught at an early age good values, they learn to lead better lives and have a better moral compass. Here are some ways that you can teach your young ones good values:

  1. Be a good example.

We are our children’s first teachers. We are who they model their behaviors after first. When your child sees how you interact with people, your own generosity and your own personal values -they will mimic those. In other words, you must practice what you preach. When they find themselves in a situation where they are not sure what path to follow, they will think about what path you would choose. Help make sure they choose the right one.

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  1. Hold them accountable.

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How to Encourage Quiet Time for Kids

The Generation Z or the Post Millennials of today, children born from the early 2000, are also sometimes called the Screeners. They have a surprising aptitude for technology and a hand full of prying fingers that are hard to ignore – these kids are the future.

As much as we would like them to remain babies, they grow up so quickly and as a part of their growth process, certain systematic establishments need to be made. This is done in order for them to transition well into an empathetic, imaginative individual who is not solely a by-product of these inventions. In short, this is a call for simplicity.child reading
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Nurturing Your Child Through Creative Expression

What is creative expression and why practice it?

Creative expression is widely regarded as a way for people, especially children, to express their inner thoughts, opinions and even identities through forms of art such as painting, writing as well as music. A large part of one’s personal experience and knowledge greatly forms the basis of their expression, and can mirror or help them process their emotions or thoughts.

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Nights out after becoming a parent

So after weeks of meticulously planning a night out after a couple of years of having  two children and writing 101 lists for the baby sitter because of  course, she doesn’t know my kids the way I do, and more than likely she’ll ignore it all and give them the chocolates she’d been hiding in her pocket and let them stay up late to watch a movie, here’s the eye opening pros and cons of my night out.Fear

 

 

 

Arriving

Pro – We get to the pub and enjoy the weird experience of being able to talk at normal level voice and not listen out for any footsteps or movement.

Con – My nerves are gone as all I’m thinking of is the kids and hope they are not calling out for me.

Socialising

Pro – Nice to talk to new people and socialise

Con – Why does this person keep talking to me, I didn’t invite them into my company. How can I make them go away?

New people

Con – This person beside is dribbling and I don’t know how to stop it.

Pro – My child is doing that because he is growing teeth and that’s cool.

Art of conversation

Con – Why is this person slurring and I can’t understand the words from their mouth.

Pro – My child is learning to talk and I can teach them new words

Toilets

Con – The toilets have piss on the floor.

Pro – My child is in toilet training so that’s acceptable to be on the floor

Opposite sex

Con – Men grab your breast just random in a crowded place and think that’s OK.

Pro – Child grabs it because they are hungry.

Bouncers

Con – Bouncer won’t let me in to nightclub as not right sort and I look to old and not trendy enough.

Pro – Mammy, mammy, look at me jumping up and down on this bouncer you bought.

Fast food

Con – Why are the people in the chipper not swallowing food properly and spitting. Should I get them a bib in their size?

Pro – My child is learning to eat by themselves and it’s cute and bibs fit them.

Getting Home

Pro – I don’t have to drive and I can get a taxi.

Con – Have to listen to taxi man tell you that he knows everything and what I should do with my life!

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So that was my observation of my night out. How things have changed so much when before I was all about ‘what are we doing this weekend -‘what will I wear’, ‘who’s coming out,’ ‘will I meet someone?’  Why has my attitude changed to nights out,  Is it because I’m a parent or have I grown up or both ?

Does not going out on the town  mean you don’t have a social life?  My opinion is no.. I just have a different form of a social life..

So tonight I have my friends over to have a  good chat, few drinks and no one has to  stand in the cold waiting on a very informative taxi man to bring us home and also  I just couldn’t be arsed going out :-).

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