While the method of spanking children or corporal punishment has been going on for years as a form of discipline, is it really the answer to punishment for children? Do we hit adults every time they act up or step out of line? My guess is no, so why is it OK to lash out at a child? What would people say to bullies in school “Pick on someone your own size” So therefore, as parents are we not doing the same thing hitting someone who is smaller and vulnerable?
Is a common practice amongst parents but what some parents don’t realise is that spanking can have adverse impacts on the child. Parents, should, therefore, try their level best to refrain from spanking their children because not only does it have short term effects but long term impacts on the child as well.
Non-Compliance In Short and Long Run
One of the biggest and major impacts that spanking has on the child is that they become non-compliant in both the short and long run. Non-compliance can affect the child in more than one way. It can cause them to become severely stubborn and not oblige to the demands of the parents. Moreover, non-compliance may also cause their behaviours to get affected in the short and long term. They may start to act disaccording to their demands and commands. Non-compliance is a serious and major concern of spanking that can have serious impacts on the child and affect their mental and physical health altogether.
Affects The Child’s Emotional Centre
Spanking also affects the child’s emotional centre of the brain, the part of the brain that necessitates learning and understanding both. Once the child is spanked, their brain goes into an alarm mode. Therefore, a child may suffer in more than one way due to spanking, which will affect his ability to talk, to perceive and to react.
The more the child is spanked, the more the child will become anti-social. According to a research by Straus, Sugarman, and Giles- Sims, 1997, the anti-social behaviour amongst children will increase when they are spanked. Therefore, the more they get hit, the more they are also likely to hit others including their spouses. It may also cause them to not go out in public, affecting their personalities in both the short and long term.
Along with anti-social behaviour, the child may also exhibit increasing chances of depression and reduced mental health with spanking. Expect your child to stop talking and be in a very deep state of depression, sadness and loneliness once he is spanked. Depression has serious and major consequences for children in both the short and long run and it is one of the major effects of spanking.
Aggression In Children
Children who are spanked may develop a huge sense of aggression in them. Spanking may cause the child to become violent, it may cause the child to exhibit extremely aggressive behavior and this may have serious impacts on the people around the child as well.
Poor Relationship With Parents
Spanking leads to the development of a poor relationship with parents. Poor mental health, aggression, and anti-social behavior are all things that have a severe negative impact on the child and their relationship with the parents.
Therefore, spanking is a no go for children because it has serious and major disadvantages for them. Spanking can lead to emotional and physical abuse in the children which causes their behaviours to get affected adversely. With such long term and short term impacts of spanking, experts advise parents to refrain from it.
While a child may provoke you to lose your temper and I’ve been there, however there are other alternatives that don’t involve spanking. It has never been proven it’s an effective method of discipline compared to other ways. Each situation is different so try to find logical consequences.
Whatever age the child is whether it’d be putting them on a bold step, taking toys away, not taking them on that play date or if they are older grounding them etc.
Sometimes it could be their behaviour goes deeper down so try find out why they are acting the way they are if it’s a constant thing and listen to them.
Try to stay calm and if possible walk away for a moment. Sometimes it’s easier said than done and it’s just the first reaction that we want to lash out but it doesn’t help parent or child in the long run. No one feels good after that and the situation is made worse then but there are other methods that will have a more positive outcome.
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