This is more of a rant than anything but was in the playground the other day and saw this little girl being just pure mean to another one. I was watching with sadness and fascination also as to where the parent was and was she going to do anything. I felt like I should intervene; don’t get me wrong, that’s the last thing I want to be doing as no one likes to be told how to raise their child. We are all different and raise our children different and we do get it wrong sometimes. There is no such thing as the perfect way to raise your child but we try as hard as we can.
Thankfully, the mother of the child who was being bullied came over and took the child away. When they got near to the gate the child pointed at a woman on the bench and said, “That’s the mean girl’s mammy.” The mean girl’s mother, after finally realising she had a child and that was the reason she was sitting in a playground, came over to her child and looked at me and half laughed and said, “Ah, that helicopter one should just relax, kids will be kids, let them fight it out, you know yourself.”
While I’m not the owner of the two most perfect best behaved children in the world and I’m not Mary Poppins, yes I do agree with letting kids fight things out at times as my own two are always at it and minutes later they are the best of pals. I do however watch with a careful eye that it doesn’t get out of hand. This wasn’t one of those situations though. No, it’s not a case of letting them fight it out. One child in my opinion was more dominant than the other and therefore was being a little bully and the other is being bullied. It’s a simple as that! Sometimes it’s not just playing and there is a behaviour that needs to be watched a little closer before it can escalate. Children sometimes don’t grow out of it and bullies don’t go away. I’ve seen it with teenagers, it goes on in the workforce, relationships etc. When is it time to say it is your kid who is just being horrible and mean and it’s time to step it up as a parent otherwise it could grow up to be the obnoxious bully adult also? We don’t then say, “Ah adults are adults, you know yourself.”
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